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Making Money With Body Language
Learning and understanding body language has really become popular in the past few years. Employers now hire professionals to teach body language skills to their employees. Take for instance, sales people. It behooves the sales professional to learn body language skills. This will help them better communicate from their end and also teach them how to pick up buying signals from their prospective customer.
Motivational speakers and corporate trainers can make money with body language.
For those in law enforcement, the need to know when someone is lying or being deceptive is imperative. This market is in great need for books, videos, etc on understanding the body language of a person that is lying and being deceptive. Select professionals in law enforcement may have the skills necessary, but these tools can be equally useful and needed on a managerial level at any institution. There are plenty of situations when a supervisor needs to confront or question workers. Understanding lying and deceptive body language will help the supervisor be more efficient in his investigative work.
There are hundreds of internet websites, books and video resources on the subject of using body language in romantic relationships. Society eats this stuff up. One can make money with body language in relation to flirting and attracting people.
I believe there are not enough video type resources to demonstrate body language in real live action, when trying to attract and keep the opposite sex. Reading on the subject is one thing, but watching someone model the skills of body language is another level of assimilation. This is one area where making money with body language is almost guaranteed.
I believe young people who love baseball wish they understood the body language that takes place on teams during games. If a book or resource was available to teach the dynamics of how to develop body language in baseball, the author of said resources could make a lot of money. Not only will individual boys beg their parents for a book like this, but little league coaches, dads, school coaches, etc will want it too.
I believe young people who love baseball wish they understood the body language that takes place on teams during games. If a book or resource was available to teach the dynamics of how to develop body language in baseball, the author of said resources could make a lot of money. Not only will individual boys beg their parents for a book like this, but little league coaches, dads, school coaches, etc will want it too.
Making money with body language can be had in the field of parenting and family building. Most families want to have a peaceful and fluid home. Anything that creates barriers in communication and progress is an opportunity for making money. The need for parents to understand the body language of their children or spouses is so important. I myself have purchased two books on communication but have found that a small percentage focuses on body language.
There are lots of opportunities to make money with body language. I don’t think I’ve seen one resource on How to Understand Your Dog’s Body Language. Imagine the spin off opportunities for other animals like cats, horses, etc. Resources should include all reasons for body language. There are many variables to why the body does express itself without words. But, it is possible to make money with body language and help meet real needs.
Dominance In Body Language
There are times when I shake someone’s hand, where I feel the person is trying to establish superiority over me. Sometimes a person’s strong grip will give me this message. Other times, their hand comes swooping from above with their palm down. These are direct or indirect ways when someone is expressing dominance in their body language.
It is especially evident to me when they want to establish themselves as superior, when subtle verbal statements go along with their dominant body language. If your temperament is like mine, you don’t really care if they think themselves as dominant because like me, perhaps you are a secure person. But the actions of the controlling person can be annoying.
What’s one to do?
Regarding handshakes, there are ways to reverse the dominance in body language. If a person has a strong grip, try to hold their hand a second or two longer than necessary. This may be a little awkward for the other person, but they will quickly know you are not easily lorded over. The Hand swooping from above with their palm down to shake your hand is a little trickier. One option if possible, is to remain a distance away from them as they close in then, quickly swoop down from above with your palm down.
I personally know a very tall individual who I’ve had differences in philosophy with. Publicly we try to keep a peaceful persona but we are not really friends. Every time we see each other in public, he makes a grand spectacle of saying hello to me and immediately patting me on the back while holding one of my shoulders. This is quite annoying because he is so tall and I know he is trying to establish who is superior – even if it is unconsciously.
However, the last time my tall friend tried to show dominance in body language, I reversed it on him. Because he is so tall, I had to put my arm under his then I placed my other arm around him. I gave him a big hug. This surprised him. It must have especially surprised him when I held on to him for a few seconds. He seemed a little more hesitant to continue talking with me after that.
Dominance in body language can also be expressed with walking. People that want to show superiority while walking in a group, will try to get ahead of the pack. They have to be first. They prefer to be in the middle. Especially when there are three people walking, the one that wants to show dominance in body language will strive to be in the middle. But, if we all wanted to reverse this dominant body language expression, everyone will eventually be racing each other to the front. This would look ridiculous. A good way to show dominance in body language in this context when walking in a group is to stay behind. Let people go in front of you while you touch their back, helping them to move along. Feel strategic and important, and you will come across as being in charge. Let the guy in front take the first bullet.
Body Language Louder Than Words
Body Language Louder Than Words
Think for a few seconds. If you’re around people, stop and look around. Take a moment and observe the people walking by you or sitting at the tables near you. Most of the time, you don’t need to listen to their conversations or ask them what they’re thinking or trying to communicate. Directly or indirectly, everybody’s body language speaks louder than words.
Take for example, someone that is sad. You can easily tell by their demeanor that they are not happy. Their whole body sulks and they walk about as if a dark cloud follows over them. On the other hand, someone that is happy walks about as if they are sunshine incarnate. They beam with joy and their body radiant with every step. This is body language.
Understanding basic body language helps one be a better communicator and person. I know a young boy who cannot for the life of him stay out of social trouble. He’s great at starting friendships but not maintaining those relationships. A good reason why he has this trouble is due to his lack of understanding body language. Instead of noticing his friend needs time alone or is not interested in playing at the moment, the boy will press for the friend to do what he or she does not want to do. This quickly creates friction and a verbal or even a physical altercation will then occur.
Body language is everywhere and in every facet of life. The next time you are at work talking with your boss or co-worker, remember body language. If you become better attuned to what people are saying with their body, you will quickly be regarded as a very important asset to your company.
At home, pay attention to what your spouse is saying beyond words or what your sibling is really feeling. When you can naturally pick up on their physical cues and mirror them accordingly, you will be esteemed as the most tender and understanding member of the family.
Understanding body language is not always simple. The person you are trying to read may have other variables involved and assuming you can understand them can lead to frustration. For example, the crossing of arms at the shoulders is widely understood as a physical cue, that the person is opposed to what he or she is hearing. But, in many cases this can also mean the person is seriously thinking about what is being discussed. A third possibility is that the person is simply trying to keep warm.
I once heard that body language is really 95% of what we say. Words are only 5%. Our own intentional efforts, to become better communicators by using or restraining body language is, key to being influential or persuasive.